I’ve been on a bit of a hiatus… for that, I apologise.
I’ve actually been busy reading a book titled The Life Changing Magic Of Not Giving A Fuck by Sarah Knight, which was gifted to me by Clare Lambert. Thank you so much Clare!
As the title says, it has really helped me to stop giving so much of a fuck (I think… maybe… a little bit). You should read it.
I’ve always been a person to secretly seek the approval of everybody I meet. Really wanting to be accepted has driven me to many a sleepless night and awkward feelings. I would analyse everything people said to me, taking a lot to heart whilst acting careless and shrugging things off. I’m a pretty good actress, staying calm and cool, whilst inside shrivelling like a socially awkward prune. Most of the time.
When I started tattooing (a year ago next month!) I was terrified of what tattooists would think of me. I came into tattooing through my partner, Mike, so I was always worried that people would think I had it ‘too easy’ or that everything was handed to me on a plate. But recently I have learned that none of that means shit!
I won’t lie, my initial learning experience wasn’t one of huge trial and tribulation. I had, and still have, an amazing support network and lots of people I could, and can, turn to for help. For that, I am unbelievably grateful! I know that too many artists have a really tough ride in their first few years but I don’t believe that makes them more valid than the next man.
The book I’m reading helps you to rate your ‘fucks’ into categories of importance. This really helped me realise the things I really didn’t need to give a shit about. Seriously, get the book.
My ‘Sorry, Not Sorry’ No Fucks Lists…
1. The things I realised I give a shit bout:
- Making clean tattoos
- Putting all of my effort into every single tattoo I make
- Having happy clients
- Mike is happy
- I’m healthy
- My family are safe and happy
- Animal welfare
- Staying positive
2. The things I don’t give a shit about:
- How people view me
- Attending events I didn’t really want to go to
- People’s opinions on my actions or words
Since making my lists and implementing them into my daily life, I have felt SO much more clear and positive inside. I’m spending less time worrying about things that aren’t directly important to my life and focusing more on what is good for me. 🙂
Do we need a ‘no fucks’ revolution? Read my own reaction to Lydia’s blog here.
P.S. As I’ve been away for a little while, here are a few tattoos I’ve been doing!
Read Lydia’s previous blogs.